What I like about being a Helper
- I’m a ‘people’ person and good for others.
- I instinctively know what people need and can help to make their lives better.
- I am generous, warm and caring, and sensitive to others’ feelings.
What I don’t like about being a Helper
- I have difficulty saying ‘no’ and neglect my own interests.
- I criticise myself for not being as loving as I could be.
- I get upset when people don’t reciprocate my help.
- I work so hard to please that I suppress my true feelings.
Things I would never do
- Stop smiling for a month.
- Leave a stray kitten to fend for itself.
- Fail to pay friends back after they had done me a favour.
- Fail to sympathise with a dejected colleague.
How to relate with me
- Show that you appreciate me and listen to my problems.
- Share in life’s little pleasures with me.
- Let me know that I am important to you.
- If you criticise me, do it gently.
- Look me in the eyes as you talk to me.
Things people say about me
- “She is loved by many because she’s so generous. When her friend was ill, she devoted time to helping the family while still managing to go to work full time.”
- “My Helper friend is great fun. She is witty and playful but can be quite clever and perceptive.”
- She is a wonderful wife and mother. She gives her family all the attention, generosity and love they need.”
Things I should affirm to myself
- My needs are as important as everyone else’s.
- I will stand up for what I want.
- I do not have to give love in order to benefit from love.